Have you ever been the victim of abuse?
After suffering from abuse, I continued to see myself as a victim. That broken self-image became an excuse for me to become my own abuser through alcohol and drugs.
I tried over and over again in my own strength to break free from my addiction, but failed.
I needed to look beyond myself to the One to Whom all power is given—Jesus Christ.
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Born into a fallen world, we all suffer from the effects of sin—our own sins and the sins of others. Many of us have been victims of abuse. It’s devastating and can affect us for the rest of our life—if we allow it to.
But God commands us to forgive those who have harmed us...
If we think about it, there are always others who have suffered more than we have—no one has suffered more than Jesus, Himself...
we see those who
have harmed us
as only sinners
in need of mercy
just like us.
Forgiving our abuser heals us. Forgiveness takes away the feeling of being a victim.
I know how
and even shocking
the thought of
forgiving your abuser
At least that is how I felt the day I sat across from a godly woman and heard her say those words to me...
I was living in the Ladies’ Home at the Reformers Unanimous School of Discipleship and had already been there for four months. The Ladies’ Dean was also our counselor.
That day she had stopped by the Home to speak with me. As she sat across from me, I began to confide in her about the abuse I had suffered as a young girl.
She surprised me when she told me that the very same thing had happened to her. I was so relieved because I just knew she would really understand what I felt like.
But the words that she spoke completely shocked and even offended me...
she told me that
I needed to
forgive my abuser.
She told me that
my abuser’s sin
was no different
than my own sin.
And that I needed to forgive my abuser the same way that God forgives me. Period.
The whole thing
the result of sin—
sinned against me
the same way I sin
against a Holy God.
After she left that day, I felt terrible. In less than fifteen minutes, I felt like she had explained away or dismissed what had happened to me—my identity of being a victim. It wasn’t just something I could shake off.
Then days, weeks,
even months went by
before I understood
what she had
for me that day—
she had shown me
how to finally find
As I truly began to see my abuser for just another sinner in need of mercy, I was able to forgive.
How could I not forgive,
when God forgives me
of so much?
It does take time to adjust it all in your heart and mind, but forgiveness truly is the key to healing from abuse.
Why is it important
to stop feeling
like a victim—
Because feeling like a victim keeps you a victim—even after the abuse stops. We continue the abuse ourselves through our addiction.
But if we forgive—we find healing and become more than conquerors through Christ! : )
Once we stop seeing ourselves as victims, we can move forward with overcoming the strongholds in our life—whether addiction or some other sinful stronghold.
No longer victims—
we stop focusing
on our weaknesses
looking to God
for His Strength.
It is revolutionary to turn from depending on our own power—to trusting our God to keep us from falling.
“Every religion, every program, every self-help book, is about steps you have to take. Jesus is the only One who becomes the step—to take you.”
I had tried and failed over and over again to overcome my addiction. But God—nothing is too hard for Him...
I began to understand that it wasn’t me that was going to overcome my addiction—it was Christ in me!
My new rhema and banner became:
Greater is He!
Victims no more, we begin looking beyond ourselves to the One to Whom all power is given—Jesus Christ.
We are no longer being led by our feelings or basing our decisions on what mood we are in.
Instead, we begin trusting in the Lord with all our heart and stop leaning to our own understanding...
We can stop
to do better—
our rightful Authority
by acknowledging God
in all our ways and
direct our paths.
It’s so important to see God for how great He is—Almighty God, Who is sovereignly in control of all of life. His ways and His thoughts are higher than our ways and our thoughts...
It’s really a turning point in a person’s life when they begin to see God for just how great He is...
He gives us
are for our good,
for our protection,
and for His glory.
Just as we set boundaries for our children because we love them and want to protect them—our loving heavenly Father does that for us.
“True freedom is measured and found in boundaries.”
A set of rules
with the Creator
of the Universe!
“God gives the commandments to us—and God gives God to keep the commandments for us.”
Dear friend, it’s all good.
We totally have so much hope!
Jesus is our hope...
I’m so thankful for the deliverance from addiction He’s given me! Jesus is able to deliver you too. Soon you will be singing His praises and rejoicing in the beautiful life He makes possible!
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